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  • Those Younger…

    Those Younger…

    [fusion_builder_container hundred_percent=”yes” overflow=”visible”][fusion_builder_row][fusion_builder_column type=”1_1″ background_position=”left top” background_color=”” border_size=”” border_color=”” border_style=”solid” spacing=”yes” background_image=”” background_repeat=”no-repeat” padding=”” margin_top=”0px” margin_bottom=”0px” class=”” id=”” animation_type=”” animation_speed=”0.3″ animation_direction=”left” hide_on_mobile=”no” center_content=”no” min_height=”none”][fusion_text]The great thing about this blog post is that it is relevant to YOU.

    No matter where you live, who you are, or how embarrassing your music taste, there will always be Those Younger than yourself who need you to walk alongside them as they (and you) follow Christ. They need plain old you.

    Here’s the problem as I see it – a distinct lack of leadership.

    Everywhere you look, we are broken down into our peer groups – in the form of grades at school or age appropriate groups at church i.e. kids, teens, students and young adults, young parents, older parents and retired. It is not hard to see why people end up prioritising people who are near in age with a similar stage of life. Now I’m not saying that there is no one around them to look up to – there is. But who is actively sharing life with them?

    First, I thank my God through Jesus Christ for all of you, because your faith is proclaimed in all the world. For God is my witness, whom I serve with my spirit in the gospel of his Son, that without ceasing I mention you always in my prayers, asking that somehow by God’s will I may now at last succeed in coming to you. For I long to see you, that I may impart to you some spiritual gift to strengthen you— that is, that we may be mutually encouraged by each other’s faith, both yours and mine. Romans 1:8-12 (ESV)

    There are two things that strike me about these verses as I think about the topic of leading others. First is Paul the apostle’s earnest prayer (desire) to want to be with the believers in Rome; and second is the stated result of Paul being with them (mutual encouragement).

    Desire:

    Paul uses the term ‘I long to see you’ – it is telling of a deep affection he had for his fellow believers. He prays ‘without ceasing’ that God would grant him the company of these believers that he is writing to.

    Personally, I am quite taken aback by the way he writes to them and to other believers in his other letters. I wonder if I am even close to having a fraction of the same longing for my family in Christ in other places, or even… my immediate context.

    Mutual Encouragement:

    The reason this is striking is because he speaks of imparting a spiritual gift to strengthen them and goes on to explain that this will be brought about by being mutually encouraged by each other’s faith.

    There is nothing mystical about this gift – spending time with other Christians so that we are BOTH encouraged, not only one party. But do we regard this is as a gift from God, and do we seek to encourage and be encouraged in the company of others? God uses people to sharpen and help others and vice versa (Proverbs 27:17).

    My guess is that we either do not put enough emphasis on the importance of passages like this or we quite naturally prioritise work or some kind of extra-mural over and above connecting with other people (even of our own age group). We all need to realise that meeting with people and seeking after Godly encouragement in one another’s faith is one of most important activities we have as Christians. We need to fight to make sure we have people to walk alongside us too!

    Where to from here?

    Please don’t feel guilt-tripped into meeting with someone. I pray that you will have a heart-felt joy and longing to meet with other believers and reap the benefits both for yourself and them. In so doing, I hope you will be compelled to be available to someone younger in age or faith to provide them with the same opportunity.

    Young people face many of the same issues we do on a weekly basis and are far less equipped than we are in dealing with them. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if you could just share some of your life experience with them in following Jesus?

    Don’t worry about:

    1. The fact that you aren’t perfect

    None of us are. Don’t expect yourself to model perfection because you are setting yourself up for failure. When they see your flaws use that as an opportunity to show repentance and trust in God.

    2. Feeling like you have to know everything.

    There are enough theologians out there. You don’t need to know all the answers. If younger people have questions you can always come back to them after doing some research. Sometimes we should use wisdom to know whether it is better to speak or just listen – that in itself can be a gift to them.

    3. Awkwardness.

    There is bound to be a level of awkwardness as you spend time with someone younger than you are. After all, it is difficult for you to relate to one another’s contexts. Be willing to endure some discomfort for the sake of serving them. Yes, encouraging others is a form of service to God (Romans 12:8).

    To bear in mind:

    1. Responsibility.

    When you choose to be a leader, role model or mentor to someone younger, you need to take the initiative and be responsible in trying to reach out to them. Be intentional – don’t be misleading as to why you are interested in meeting with them e.g. “I really think it would be great if we could meet up and encourage one another by reading the Bible or a devotion together.”

    2. God’s Word.

    Alluded to in point one – as Christians we are not called to merely be social and good at networking with each other. I have learnt that no amount of sifting through someone’s problems or speaking about your own can compare to hearing what God has to say from the Bible. God’s Word is alive, active and is able to bring out our innermost thoughts and desires (Hebrews 4:12). If you are not comfortable in your Bible handling, make use of a good devotional resource or a fully worked out Bible study (try www.theword121.com for something to start with).

    3. Security.

    Sadly I must mention this point. Of course it is unwise in a leadership/mentoring capacity to meet with someone of the opposite sex. In any case when you are meeting with anyone younger than you, make sure his or her safety never feels compromised. Always meet in a public place (or even in the home where there is family present). Both for their sake and your reputation. Do not leave space for situations to become questionable.

    Okay, so this has not been an exhaustive guide. I just hoped to either show you or remind you the privilege we have of leaning on one another in the family of Christ, and how special it can be for you to help someone younger learn from your experience by just sharing your life with them. It is not easy to build relationships with people you don’t as easily relate to, and you will have to sacrifice time and your own interests to get to know theirs. Let us pray that we will be a more integrated family and that we would be able to see opportunities to help Those Younger than ourselves on this journey with Christ.[/fusion_text][/fusion_builder_column][/fusion_builder_row][/fusion_builder_container][fusion_builder_container background_color=”#ffffff” background_image=”” background_parallax=”none” enable_mobile=”no” parallax_speed=”0.3″ background_repeat=”no-repeat” background_position=”left top” video_url=”” video_aspect_ratio=”16:9″ video_webm=”” video_mp4=”” video_ogv=”” video_preview_image=”” overlay_color=”” overlay_opacity=”0.5″ video_mute=”yes” video_loop=”yes” fade=”no” border_size=”0px” border_color=”” border_style=”solid” padding_top=”20″ padding_bottom=”20″ padding_left=”5%” padding_right=”5%” hundred_percent=”yes” equal_height_columns=”yes” hide_on_mobile=”no” menu_anchor=”” class=”” id=””][fusion_builder_row][fusion_builder_column type=”1_3″ last=”no” spacing=”yes” center_content=”no” hide_on_mobile=”no” background_color=”” background_image=”https://www.christchurchmidrand.co.za//wp-content/uploads/2017/07/Mail-2.png” background_repeat=”no-repeat” background_position=”center center” hover_type=”none” link=”” border_position=”all” border_size=”0px” border_color=”” border_style=”solid” padding=”” margin_top=”” margin_bottom=”” animation_type=”0″ animation_direction=”down” animation_speed=”0.1″ animation_offset=”” class=”” id=””][/fusion_builder_column][fusion_builder_column type=”2_3″ last=”yes” spacing=”yes” center_content=”no” hide_on_mobile=”no” background_color=”” background_image=”” background_repeat=”no-repeat” background_position=”left top” hover_type=”none” link=”” border_position=”all” border_size=”0px” border_color=”” border_style=”solid” padding=”2%” margin_top=”2%” margin_bottom=”2%” animation_type=”0″ animation_direction=”down” animation_speed=”0.1″ animation_offset=”” class=”” id=””][fusion_title size=”2″ content_align=”left” style_type=”default” sep_color=”” margin_top=”” margin_bottom=”” class=”” id=””]

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  • Part 2. Wholefood Christianity in an Age of Processed Snacks

    Part 2. Wholefood Christianity in an Age of Processed Snacks

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    (Adapted from a talk given by Rosie Moore at Christ Church Midrand Ladies’ breakfast on 24 February 2018. This is part 2, click here for part one)

    THE HABIT WORTH HAVING

    It’s time to get practical about how to get proper nourishment from God’s Word in our busy lives. If you are a believer, you know this habit of grace promises great rewards over a lifetime. It’s like the compound interest you will earn over a lifetime from saving a small amount of money every month over many decades. The investment is small compared to the longterm rewards, but we need to be intentional about practising this habit of grace. Here are useful tips that I’d like to share with you:

    EXPLORE BIBLE DEVOTION APP:

    This is by far the best tool I’ve found in recent years for the purpose of personal study of every book of the Bible. It’s an Application for cellphones and ipads developed by the Good book company, endorsed by The Gospel Coalition. You will recognise familiar names like Timothy Keller, Kevin de Young and John Piper as contributors. Each study is practical and user friendly, but not dumbed down, and that’s why I love it. You download it free on the App store or Google Play, then buy individual studies for a small cost which take you on a day- by -day journey through entire books of the Bible, doing a chunk at a time. Each one takes 15-20 minutes at the most and there are questions and concise commentaries to guide you through the text. It’s perfect for using in the car (as long as the driver isn’t reading!) and it doubles up as a family devotion and a useful tool for preparing Bible studies if you’re a Bible teacher. The beauty of this app is that you don’t need to carry a heavy Bible with you, as the daily text is on the device, and you don’t use data once it’s downloaded. Questions always relate back to the text, and the writer does not ask you stupid questions or ask you to guess anything! It does not explicitly follow ROMA (Read, Observe, Meditate and Apply), but you’ll find all the steps there: Read, dig deeper, think, apply, pray. The commentator allows you to answer his questions before he tells you what to think, allowing you to discover Scripture by yourself. All the commentators are Gospel centred and respect the text. I love that you can see up front how long it will take you to read through a particular book of the Bible and then decide which one works for you. The daily portions are the perfect length- not too long, not too short- for use by ordinary 21st century Christians. I use the Explore app myself, alongside a journal where I jot down my thoughts and discoveries. In the 15 minute car trip to school in the mornings, my daughters and I are able to complete a study together. This app is perfect for using in the office at lunch time, on holiday or wherever you find yourself. We need flexibility in practicing habits of grace and the Explore app gives flexibility without compromising depth.explore app logo

    JOURNALLING:

    Journaling has been shown by research to reduce scatter in our lives, increase focus, create greater emotional stability, hold thoughts still so they can be integrated into our lives, enable us to detach and let go of the past, to forgive, to increase gratitude…the list of benefits goes on! This comes from secular sources. Christian journaling has deeper benefits for our soul as well. In your journals, you are reasoning and preaching to yourself, reminding yourself of truths that are easily forgotten in the mayhem of life. Through our ink scrawls on paper, we are pouring concrete into our heart to reinforce the truth, especially when we are surrounded by wobbly sinking sand. We are capturing in our own words what we truly think and want to hold onto, as well as what the Lord has uniquely shown us. A Bible Journal is the faithful record keeper and guard dog of our walk with God. I keep my journaling simple:

    • Bullet points instead of full sentences.
    • If I miss a day, I don’t try catch up, just move on the next day.
    • I try to give a date and title to each day’s message after I’ve finished.
    • My entries are honest and full of questions, some unanswered. My writing is a scrawl, just between me and God and not designed to be a masterpiece.
    • I keep an authentic record of my prayers, my desperate pleas and those moments of clarity where the lights have suddenly been turned on in my heart. I’m amazed to look back and see how God has worked for good the many desperate experiences I’ve recorded in my journals.
    • I try to keep the purpose of Journaling in my mind: to train, practice and immerse myself in the things of God so that my thinking is renewed. I see it as soul gym!
    • I prefer using an unlined sketchbook so I can scrawl, paste and draw freely.
    • Caroline Leaf (author of Switch On Your Brain) says this: “Frame your world with your words.” That’s what you’re doing when you journal.

    READ FOR BREADTH AND DEPTH.

    I have focussed on reading for depth, but it is also good to read for breadth so you know how the pieces of the Bible fit together and get a wide sweep of Scripture. The 66 books of the Bible, written over 1500 years by over forty authors who were inspired to write by the Holy Spirit, are bound together by threads of synergy and unity that become visible when digested as a whole. However, if you are anything like me, you may battle to read through the “Bible in One Year” programme. My attempts have always aborted because I run out of time; get stuck on a section, and my mind can’t jump from one book to another in a single sitting. I’ve opted instead for CD’s or apps where the Bible is read aloud to me while driving in the car or going about my everyday business. At the moment I am loving a reading by Eugene Peterson, from The Message paraphrase of the Bible. The language is fresh and easy to understand. The You version Bible app on cellphones has the option of a read aloud version which is a wonderful way of listening to Scripture while on the treadmill of life (metaphorical or literal)!

    4. DON’T READ A SINGLE VERSE AT A TIME. ALWAYS A PARAGRAPH or PORTION AS PART OF A WHOLE BOOK.

    It is good and right to treasure certain key verses of the Bible, meditating and memorising them. That’s part of hiding God’s word in our hearts. But, if we never get into a Bible reading plan and instead treat the Bible as a promise box to bolster our self esteem or give us the magic bullet we need to get us through the day, we will often veer towards our own hobbyhorses and cherry pick verses, instead of listening to the whole counsel of God.

    It’s like grabbing a doughnut instead of eating breakfast.

    This can lead us (even unintentionally) to twist Scripture and make it say what we want it to say. Context is vital to becoming a conjunctive thinker rather than a disjunctive thinker. Let me explain conjunctive thinking: The Bible is full of paradoxes—both… and—not either… or. Two sides of the same coin are equally true. For example, reading Romans 8:28 without verse 29 loses Paul’s true meaning in the text, which is that God works all things for good for those called according to his purpose. His purpose according to verse 29 is so that we may become more like Jesus. Both are true at the same time. Reading the two verses together counters the simplistic belief that our faith dictates whether we prosper or suffer in this life. It also resists the health and prosperity worldview which implies we can use Jesus to get what we want.

    To extract a single verse or phrase out of its proper context will deprive us of the full nourishment of Biblical truth. It’s like serving yourself dessert but leaving out the main course of meat, potatoes and vegetables.

    It’s easy to distort the Gospel of Christ if we only read about the love and mercy of God without also reading about his holiness, anger against sin and judgment. Reading Proverbs alone may give us a worldview that life is a simple matter of cause and effect, ie, if you live wisely, you will always have a blessed, happy life and things will go well with you. But when you visit the theatre of Ecclesiastes and Job, the curtains will open to another, equally true scene– which is the reality of undeserved suffering, unfairness, randomness and futility in this world. Only when we read all three books of wisdom literature in the Bible, will we begin to fathom how wise it is to “fear the Lord and obey his commands” in a world which is largely uncontrollable. Since each chapter and book of the Bible shows us a different angle of truth, it is wise not to carve it up into such small pieces that we only ever see a single facet. That is why I recommend reading through whole books of the Bible with the Explore Bible Devotion app. Eventually you will get through every book of the Bible, but it will be in bitesize portions that an ordinary Christian can manage with the help of the Holy Spirit.

    BUILD A HABIT (SET A TIME, PLACE, PLAN) BUT BE FLEXIBLE TOO!

    A habit takes around 60 days to build, but it’s worth it. Having a personal devotion is a habit of grace first and foremost, not a way to earn brownie points with God, but it is also a habit built out of discipline, perseverance and self control. This is a good example of conjunctive thinking, as God’s grace and our effort work together in unison.

    Running the race of faith to the finish line requires tenacity.

    Paul urged Timothy, a younger Christian to “train himself for godliness.” (1 Timothy 4:7) Listen to the words he uses in verse 15, “Practice these things, immerse yourself in them, so that all may see your progress.”

    If you are a believer, you can be assured that the Holy Spirit is working on your behalf and God has plenty of grace available to you for your daily life. But you cannot turn on a switch and force this grace to flow through you. God has given us channels for his grace and one of them is reading his Word. When you position yourself in the flood of this grace, if you come to the living water, and let it wash over you day by day, month by month, year by year, you will experience certain benefits or byproducts over time that are worth more than anything this world can give you. But flexibility is key too. Life is unpredictable and takes some unusual twists and turns. Sometimes we find ourselves in the pressure cooker of life where we hardly come up for breath. God is with us wherever we are and we can meet with him in the car, on a run, in the bath, on holiday or anywhere else! The Explore Bible Devotion App gives you the flexibility to read God’s Word virtually anywhere. Take advantage of all media available to immerse yourself in the Bible, even if you’re unable to have your perfect “Quiet time” in your favourite spot.

    “We need never shout across the spaces to an absent God. He is nearer than our own soul, closer than our most secret thoughts.” (A.W Tozer)

    Our family has developed a “Blessing dinner” on a Saturday evening, where we take turns reading portions of Scripture around the dinner table and eat a meal that’s more special than usual. It’s nothing formal, but my husband, Pete, is the ‘leader’ and the passages are usually ones I’ve read during the week, which have spoken powerfully to me. I copy and paste them onto a sheet which each family member gets to keep. I suppose it’s just a symbolic way for us to invite Jesus to share our family meal and teach us in the common routine of our week. There may be many practical ways you can incorporate the Bible into your personal and family life if you think creatively and are flexible. With children, strike while the iron is hot!

    Sometimes it is good to look ahead at the rewards, the “why” of something to encourage us to keep up a habit that requires some effort.

    Strong roots produce fruits.

    I’ve put them down as three S’s.

    1. Satisfies us.
    2. Solidifies us.
    3. Sanctifies us.

    1. SATISFIES:

    Isaiah 55 asks us: “Why spend money on what is not bread and your labour on what does not satisfy?” The truth is that we are made for a purpose. That purpose is to know God, to love God and be like God. The Westminster Confession says that the chief end of man is to love God and enjoy Him forever. One of my favourite chapters in the Bible is Revelation 21 where John sees a vision of the new heavens and new earth at the end of time. Savour the words in verse 3:

    “And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, “Behold, the dwelling place of God is with man. He will dwell with them, and they will be his people,and God himself will be with them as their God.” (Revelation 21:3)

    That’s why nothing in this world will ultimately satisfy us. God has set eternity in our hearts. But how do we know God? Surely a finite mortal person cannot know the infinite God who made the universe? Yet, John’s Gospel begins like this:

    “In the beginning was the Word and the Word was with God and the Word was God. …Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made that has been made. In him was life and that life was the light of men…v14 The Word became flesh and lived for a while among us. We have seen his glory, the glory of the one and only Son who came from the Father, full of grace and truth… v18. No one has ever seen God, but God the only Son who is at the Father’s side, has made him known.” (John 1)

    The “Word” here is Jesus. Jesus has made God known to us. He embodies grace and truth. We know we can’t meet with Jesus physically anymore as the disciples could, because He’s at the Father’s side in heaven. But through the written word of God we come to know the Living Word who is Jesus. Jesus did not come just to reveal what God is like– he came to reveal God himself. He is the exact representation of the Father.

    To see Jesus is to see God. To hear Jesus is to hear God.

    The remarkable thing about the Bible is that through its pages, we come to know who God is, who we are, why our world is as it is, and we get a glimpse into God’s great redemptive plan throughout human history to make us right with Him.

    Throughout the pages of the Bible we meet Jesus. When we listen to the Word with an open heart, we get to sit at Jesus’ feet like Mary did while her sister Martha was “distracted” by all her work in the kitchen. Martha tells Jesus to call her sister out for being lazy, but Jesus’ replies:

    “Martha, Martha, you are worried and upset by many things, but only one thing is necessary. Mary has chosen what is better and it will not be taken away from her.” (Luke 10:38-41)

    Jesus is not saying to Martha, “Become a nun and meditate all day in a cloister!” No, he is in effect saying, “Martha, don’t just focus on what you do! You will never do enough to gain eternal life. What matters for eternal life is not what you do, but who you know.” It’s a living relationship with Jesus which is “the one thing necessary.”

    “The one thing necessary” is the root that produces the fruit. Don’t be obsessed by the fruit, but get yourself rooted and built up in Jesus!

    DOING IS THE BYPRODUCT OF KNOWING AND BEING KNOWN BY JESUS. THE RELATIONSHIP IS THE MAIN THING. ACTS OF SERVICE FLOW OUT OF IT.

    It’s our relationship with Jesus that will enable us to carry out what we need to do in this world and become the person God designed us to be. It struck me while I was reading the Gospel of Matthew that before Jesus gave the Great Commission in Matthew 28 to “go into all the earth and preach the Gospel, making disciples and teaching them all that I’ve commanded you,” he first instructed his disciples in chapter 11:

    28 Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” (Matthew 11:28-30)

    I have experienced first hand that I cannot go out to do anything worthwhile if I have not first come to sit at the feet of Jesus to learn from him. I don’t have anything useful to hand out if I’m not first filled up by the Bread of heaven.

    When Jesus becomes our Lord and Master, he doesn’t give us a heavy load to carry—a bunch of rules and duties to perform for him. Jesus is not a slave driver like other masters. He wants us to learn from him, to be taught by him how to walk freely and lightly in this world, how not to be anxious and not try to carry more than today’s load. I don’t mean our walk is going to be easy. I just mean that Jesus teaches us what’s important and what isn’t, what’s real and fake, he teaches us to see through the thick fog of our busy lives and put first things first. He teaches us not to worry about tomorrow. He teaches us to let go of things that hinder us, past regrets, things that rule us, unmet needs, approval we never got, an identity or label that whittles away our confidence. He teaches us to surrender control of the uncontrollables. He invites us to come to him with all those burdens and worries that wear us down. He “sets us at liberty” just like he said he would when he stood up in the temple and read from the prophet Isaiah:

    18 “The Spirit of the Lord is upon me,
    because he has anointed me
    to proclaim good news to the poor.
    He has sent me to proclaim liberty to the captives
    and recovery of sight to the blind,
    to set at liberty those who are oppressed. (Luke 4:18)

    Metaphorically, people eat breads of achievement, works, glory, approval, internet Likes and performance. We drink from the broken cisterns of work, family, education, leisure, pleasure and anxiety. But they leak, leaving our souls empty and thirsty– parched in fact. In contrast, Jesus himself is the Bread of life, which never runs out, like the 12 leftover baskets of bread. He is the Living water. He is the sustaining, cool stream that nourishes our roots and every branch of our lives if we are planted by the water. Only Jesus can quench the deep longings of our soul because we were made to find our joy in Him alone. The whole of the Bible from Genesis to Revelation is about Jesus. Even David wrote in 1000BC:

    “I have not departed from your laws, for you yourself have taught me. How sweet are your words to my taste, sweeter than honey to my mouth.” (Psalm 119:102-103).

    If David could say this about the first 5 books of the Bible which is all he had, how much sweeter is our experience of the whole Bible, which includes the coming of the promised Messiah? God’s word satisfies us.

    2. SOLIDIFIES:

    “Therefore lift your drooping hands and strengthen your weak knees, 13 and make straight paths for your feet, so that what is lame may not be put out of joint but rather be healed.” (Hebrews 12:12-13).

    There is only one way I know how to describe how God’s Word “solidifies” and that is through my personal story.

    Last year I experienced what I call the ‘vapour’ state of life. Just as there are three states of water, I believe our lives can also metaphorically take on the form of solid, liquid or gas. When we are strong and bulletproof, we feel as solid as a rock. Nothing can stop us, nothing can shake our faith, nothing is beyond our reach. We are optimistic and hopeful about life. We laugh at the future.

    Then there are times that we discover a wobble in our knees and feel more like liquid, not too constant and a bit turbulent. We waver between hope and doubt. Our faith is a bit shaky but still it flows freely through our veins. We wonder if we are bullet proof after all.

    But then there are those moments (usually somewhere in the middle of life) when the penny finally drops and we realise we are not bulletproof at all. We know we are nothing more than vapour which is here now and gone tomorrow. It feels as if life is a smoke that you cannot grasp with your fingers. It is confusing, disorientating and uncontrollable. As the writer to the Hebrews says, your hands droop, your knees are weak and you feel lame.

    Generally in my life, I have been a solid person. I think an objective assessment would say I’m organised, efficient, emotionally stable and positive about life. But in June 2017, after six months of health issues and chronic fatigue, a feather could have knocked me over and I was reduced to vapour. At the same time every afternoon a thick blanket of darkness would envelope me and threatened to suffocate me with despair and inexplicable weepiness. I could do nothing but close my curtains and lie in bed begging God to show me the light. I felt I did not want to live another day if this is what the rest of my life would be like. It took every ounce of my energy to get up in the evening and try to get supper together for my family. After a month of these horrendous afternoons, while I was begging the Lord once again to show me the light, Ephesians 6 came to my mind, a passage I had memorised as a child.

    10 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might. 11 Put on the whole armour of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil.12 For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places. 13 Therefore take up the whole armour of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand firm. 14 Stand therefore, having fastened on the belt of truth, and having put on the breastplate of righteousness, 15 and, as shoes for your feet, having put on the readiness given by the gospel of peace. 16 In all circumstances take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming darts of the evil one;17 and take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God, 18 praying at all times in the Spirit, with all prayer and supplication.

    I suddenly realised I needed to fight this darkness, whatever it was, and take the offensive rather than just lie down like a victim. I knew I needed to wield the sword of the Spirit which is the Word of God, and pray in the Spirit, whatever that meant. I had never really practised spiritual warfare before but I knew my life depended upon it. I got out my Bible and literally scoured it for everything I had ever read about taking courage in the face of fear, trusting the Lord with joy, waiting for his salvation, standing strong in the hope of deliverance, taking refuge in God, resisting the devil. I wrote verses and whole Psalms on recipe cards for the next few hours until I had an envelope full of them. I felt armed at last! The next day when I could feel the darkness sneaking up on me, I hauled out my cards, stood up and started reading them out aloud, praying them back to God, reminding him of his promises and holding Him to them. I was wrestling with God for his blessing as I believe Jacob did when his hip was dislocated as he slept next to the Jabbok river. It felt good to be fighting against the lies that were strangling me, using God’s Word to push back the darkness and resisting Satan’s accusations. An amazing thing happened after an hour of this struggle. Peace washed over me like a cool waterfall and it felt like the vapour transformed into a solid state again. I was literally solidified by the Word of God. It took less than a week of wielding the Sword of the Spirit in this way before the darkness finally left me and that blanket of despair has not returned.

    “Keep yourselves in the love of God, waiting for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ to bring you to eternal life.” (Jude 21)

    We must fight to “keep ourselves” living in the paths of God’s blessing and “wait for his mercy.” The word of God, the Sword of the Spirit is our best weapon and tool to enable us to do this.

    SANCTIFIES:
    The truth is that we are all recovering addicts— addicts of sin. We are only in recovery because we have been born again and are now new creatures with a soft heart of flesh instead of stone.

    But no one drifts towards holiness.

    There is nothing passive about the Christian journey. Peter tells us to “make every effort to add to our faith “virtue, knowledge, self control, perseverance, godliness, mutual affection and love.” (2 Peter 1:5-9) Paul tells the Philippians to “work out their salvation with fear and trembling knowing that: “it is God who works in you both to will and work his good pleasure.” (Philippians 2:12-13). We are in a constant battle to resist our flesh, Satan and the world, the three great enemies of our soul.

    The Bible is a “lamp to my feet and a light to my path”. It is God’s unchanging standard of what He loves and what He hates. If we come to the Word every day, in childlike dependence, you can be sure that it will hold up a mirror to our soul, showing us exactly what we are like. The Spirit of God searches our hearts as we read the God-breathed words of Scripture. Other people may easily be deceived by our outward show or giftedness, and we may be admired in the Church and committed to ministry. But the Bible exposes us and shatters our masks of wisdom, false humility, secret sins and fantasies, false worship, idols and pretence.

    “So if you think you are standing firm, be careful lest you fall.” (1 Cor 10:1-12). Complacency is our greatest enemy.

    Just like the Israelites, we have enormous blessings from God. Yet sexual sin, grumbling, ingratitude, bitterness, anger, resentment, vanity, disappointment, despair, our ego’s…are only a small step away. We need an attitude of constant childlike dependence on what God shows us in his Word, craving its pure spiritual milk, so that we may grow up in our faith.

    “LIKE NEWBORN BABIES CRAVE PURE SPIRITUAL MILK, SO THAT BY IT YOU MAY GROW UP IN YOUR SALVATION, NOW THAT YOU HAVE TASTED THAT THE LORD IS GOOD.” (1 Peter 2:2-4).

    In his last intimate time with his disciples before he was arrested and crucified, Jesus prayed for them:

    “MY PRAYER IS NOT THAT YOU TAKE THEM OUT OF THE WORLD BUT THAT YOU PROTECT THEM FROM THE EVIL ONE. THEY ARE NOT OF THE WORLD, EVEN AS I AM NOT OF IT. SANCTIFY THEM BY THE TRUTH; YOUR WORD IS TRUTH.” (JOHN 17:15-17).

    It is not an easy kind of life that we’ve been called to if we are followers of Christ. We are not citizens here and are living in hostile territory. My friends, without the truth washing over us every day we cannot hope to run our race or finish strong. We are going to get tangled up in snares unless we are sanctified by the truth daily. God’s Word is truth.

    CONNECTING WITH GOD
    You may be reading this blog today and thinking, “I’m a Christian but I don’t know Jesus in this intimate way. I read the Bible but I’m not moved or inspired by it anymore. In fact, I feel disengaged and distant from God.”

    Or you may be thinking, “I’m not even sure God exists. I don’t know him and have no clue about the Bible.” If you identify with either of these, I’m so glad you’ve kept reading to the end. I have no power to speak into your heart. Only God can do that and I hope you kept reading because your heart was stirred by one of the Scriptures I quoted today, not by my inadequate words. God’s Word is powerful and doesn’t come back empty. I’m going to make one last appeal to you.

    Use the Explore Bible Devotion app as a tool or just read through one of the four Gospels from beginning to end on your own. With the Explore App, you will be able to complete Matthew’s Gospel in 98 days if you follow the daily readings. That’s just over three months out of your entire life to discover who Jesus is and whether it’s worth building your life on Him! It’s hardly a big investment. Before you begin, pray truthfully to God in your own words and ask Him to show himself to you if He is real and speak to you in a way you cannot ignore if the Bible is truly his Word. Ask the real Jesus to meet you where you’re at and take the trouble to read each day’s passage without preconceived ideas. Take a small step of faith and approach this assignment with fresh eyes, reading the text and answering the questions in the Explore App. Pray to God even if it’s to express your doubts and questions. Commit to doing it every day (as far as possible) until the end. After you have completed one of the Gospels, I’d love you to email me on:

    moorerosemary534@gmail.com
    Let me know what you think of what you’v! Two men discipled me when I was a child. One was my father in the first decade of my life and the other was a guest preacher at my school when I was eleven years old. These two people literally led me to the greatest treasure I could ever have discovered– a relationship with God through faith in Jesus Christ. It was not just a gift for a lifetime but for all eternity. I would love to play some small role in doing the same for you if you have felt the Lord stirring your heart to reach out to Him.

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  • Part 1. Wholefood Christianity in an Age of Processed Snacks

    Part 1. Wholefood Christianity in an Age of Processed Snacks

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    (Adapted from a talk given by Rosie Moore at Christ Church Midrand Ladies’ breakfast on 24 February 2018)

    “Come, everyone who thirsts,
    come to the waters;
    and he who has no money,
    come, buy and eat!
    Come, buy wine and milk
    without money and without price.
    2 Why do you spend your money for that which is not bread,
    and your labour for that which does not satisfy?
    Listen diligently to me, and eat what is good,
    and delight yourselves in rich food.
    3 Incline your ear, and come to me;
    hear, that your soul may live.” (Isaiah 55:1-3)

    Lord, we know that just as our bodies need nourishing food to grow healthy and full of life, so do our souls. Jesus, we know that you are the bread of life and the living water. We can only satisfy the deep longings of our souls in you. Everything else will leave us empty and dissatisfied. So we come to you today and ask you to give us fresh encouragement, a new conviction of what a great source of blessing we have in the Bible, your very breath to us. Help us to prioritize this habit of grace, and so, to enjoy you more and more each day.

    LIVING IN THE AGE OF THE MAD DIET

    Let me start by explaining the title of my blog today: “Wholefood Christianity in an Age of Processed Snacks.” We live in the MAD era: No, we’re not exactly crazy, but we live on the Modern American Diet (MAD). Life is busy, so food manufacturers have obliged our hectic lifestyles by providing carb laden, highly processed foods, saturated with preservatives in convenient packaging, which can be popped in the microwave or eaten on the run. Our nutrition is cheap, fast and titillates our taste buds. Unfortunately, “Quick and easy” eating, while having obvious short term benefits, has led to obesity and expensive chronic diseases in the long term. My observation is that spiritual malnutrition is becoming just as rife amongst Christians because of the same “quick and easy” lifestyle. I’m calling us to go back to the chopping board with fresh vegetables and sharp knives, and eat real spiritual food! Whole food rather than processed snacks. I’m here to remind us that sitting at the feet of Jesus, and listening to him in an attentive, undistracted way, is a sure way to be saturated with the authentic nourishment that Isaiah 55 talks about- “THAT YOUR SOUL MAY LIVE.” We will only be properly nourished and prepared for life as followers of Christ if we engage directly with the Word of God regularly, meeting with Jesus in an intimate relationship, instead of living off over simplified titbits that someone else has processed for us. It’s the one habit of grace we must build if we want to be fruitful and not just busy Christians. It’s the root that produces the fruit.

    LOOKING BACK

    But first I must tell you how I came to have this passion for the Word of God and that entails going back in history (quite a long way!) I was the last of 4 children, and grew up on a farm living in a caravan. My parents became Christians just before I was born. A lasting memory I have of the first decade of life was my dad reading the Bible to me every night, an illustrated colourful version, over and over again. We would read, chat about the passage, pray, lights off. That was my routine. Day after day, year after year. When I was 11, I went to boarding school in Pietermaritzburg, 7 hours from home, where I was a termly boarder. I went with Ellie (my fluffy elephant) under one arm and my own new Bible under the other, a Ryrie Study Bible.

    Those of you who have been to boarding school will know that it’s a jungle out there! When I went in 1980, my dormitory had a real mixture of kids- from far afield like Zambia and Malawi, to local kids trying to escape unhappy homes. I slept next to a kleptomaniac for the first year as my initial baptism of fire! About a month into the first term, we had a guest speaker from Youth for Christ who led our chapel service. I was feeling homesick at the time. He started his talk by reading Psalm 1 to us, and I listened, riveted, as he read the Bible to us. I remembered the evening Bible readings with my dad, and felt a longing to have my soul nourished and restored again:

    Blessed is the man
    who walks not in the counsel of the wicked,
    nor stands in the way of sinners,
    nor sits in the seat of scoffers;
    2 but his delight is in the law of the LORD,
    and on his law he meditates day and night.

    3 He is like a tree
    planted by streams of water
    that yields its fruit in its season,
    and its leaf does not wither.
    In all that he does, he prospers.
    4 The wicked are not so,
    but are like chaff that the wind drives away. (Psalm 1)

    In his talk, the preacher explained the Psalm simply to us:

    • God’s Word, the Bible, is what David talked about as “the law of the Lord” (v2).
    • Meditating on and delighting in the Bible is the secret to knowing God, loving Him and living in relationship with Him.
    • He explained the metaphor of the tree planted next to the streams of water: “The tree is you,” he said. “If your soul is being nourished continuously by life-giving water, your life will be rooted and will flourish like that strong, healthy tree.
    • He went on to tell us the story of Jesus meeting the Samaritan woman at the well in John 4, when Jesus told her He was the Living water, the well that never runs dry. He explained that Jesus is the one who satisfies the thirst of our soul.

    I hadn’t opened my Bible since the day I got to school (I didn’t really know where to start), but that day in chapel I knew God himself was speaking to me through Psalm 1. I felt like a tree planted in a dry desert, far from any life-giving stream, far from a home that loved Jesus, in a busy, adapt-or-die wilderness. And I knew in my heart I was wilting fast!

    Then the preacher did what no one else had done at school before. He asked if anyone wanted to talk about practical ways to be planted beside the stream and to “delight in the law of the Lord and meditate on his law day and night.” He invited us to meet him afterwards to talk about these things. I assumed everyone had been moved by Psalm 1 as I had been, but found myself alone at the front of the chapel. I’m convinced that the next hour spent with the preacher helped me make the most important investment of my life, which is to carve out a special time every day to spend with the Lord. This is what I remember of our conversation 37 years ago.

    1. “First,” the preacher emphasized, “this is not a duty or a box to tick off. It’s not some law to follow to make God like you more or make you seem more holy.” He explained that meditating on the Bible is a free gift God has provided for his children to make sure that our souls are rooted in his truth and grow and bear fruit over a lifetime. It’s all about relationship, not rules.
      Second, he helped me devise a practical plan which involved setting a time and place, a Bible, a journal and pen. My plan was to get up fifteen minutes before the rising bell and spend half an hour with the Lord before breakfast.
    2. Third, he said I should read a whole book of the Bible at a time, from beginning to end, in daily bite size portions. His reasoning was 2 Timothy 3:16 and 17, “All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work.”
    3. The preacher told me he would send me a letter every week with portions to read every day. These weekly letters became a staple recipe that guided me through the Bible until I finished school 7 years later.
    4. Lastly, the preacher told me to start with a short prayer asking God to open my heart so that I would understand what I was reading and to speak to me personally. He explained that the same Holy Spirit who inspired human authors to write the Bible, would also help me to understand it and make it alive to me.

    That discussion in our school chapel transformed my relationship with God as I began to dive in to the Bible every day and digest the portion in front of me. I was desperate for the light it gave me. Mostly my devotion happened in a quiet spot in our school gardens or, when the weather was cold or rainy, in a toilet cubicle, wherever I could be alone for half an hour. I came to the Bible expecting God to speak to me personally and I spoke to Him about what I was reading and whatever was on my mind. I never came away empty or disappointed. I experienced first hand the truth of Isaiah 55:1:

    “So shall My word be that goes forth from My mouth;
    It shall not return to Me void,
    But it shall accomplish what I please,
    And it shall prosper in the thing for which I sent it.”

    I’ve often thought of those school years and realised that the preacher who came to our school was like an angelic investment guru. He guided me to make a spiritual investment from the age of 11 that is still accruing compound interest almost four decades later, and I trust will continue to multiply over whatever years the Lord gives me on this earth. I know without a doubt that this is the way God intends his children to grow spiritually, as Jesus taught in the parable of the sower. (Luke 8:4-15)

    I’ve also realised that mine is not the experience of most Christians. In fact, it’s rare. After a believer receives the Gospel and becomes a Christ follower, there is often a vacuum of discipleship and little or no teaching on how to walk with the Lord in an everyday practical way. The ‘spiritual disciplines’ or habits of grace are assumed but hardly ever taught deliberately in a step-by-step way, spawning Christians who view independent Bible reading as an overwhelming task reserved only for those who have theological training. The following 4 steps have proved invaluable to me in reading and understanding the Bible for myself. I’ve put them into the acronym R O M A- Read, Observe, Meditate and Apply. This is just a tool I have put together, not a formula to dictate how the Bible must be read, but it may help you approach Bible reading with more confidence and digest the Bible rather than ingest it.

    USING R.O.M.A TO AID DIGESTION

    -Read the passage through twice, slowly. My experience is that my mind is normally wandering first time round and I need to read the text twice to start making sense of it. After reading, I usually write down the text reference in my journal and today’s date. Then move on to the Observe step.

    -Observe what the text is actually saying, taking notice of details like names, repetition or figures of speech, who the author and original readers are. Ask who, what, where, when and how. Notice what came before this passage and how it fits into the context of the whole book. Think of the first two steps of ROMA, namely, Reading and Observing as raking up the leaves in your garden and gathering them into neat piles before you get to digging and planting. It’s important not to skip this step to avoid the mistake we often make when we mould Scripture to say what we think it should be saying, rather than allowing it to speak. The Bible should challenge our worldview, not just be an echo chamber of what we already think. At this stage, a verse or phrase from the text usually jumps out at me and I write it down in my journal as a key verse to meditate on and perhaps memorise later. It’s amazing how different details strike you each time you read the same text, which is why you will never plumb the depths of Scripture. Next, move to the best part of a personal devotion– Meditation.

    –Meditate: Meditation is fashionable nowadays—to lower blood pressure, avert panic attacks, reduce stress and exercise your brain so you don’t get dementia. But Christian meditation has nothing to do with sitting with your legs crossed and clearing your mind of all thoughts. Its about digesting the words of God slowly (as opposed to just ingesting them) and savouring them as you would relish the meal. Christian meditation is a lost art today, mostly because fast-paced technology which has trained us to multitask, to scroll and skim over words without paying much attention and to work with many distractions. But, as people made in God’s image, we are made to meditate. Think about this: Humans are the only species on earth who intuitively reflect and ponder things, discuss and turn over ideas, debate and struggle with abstract concepts. Unlike the rest of creation, humans have the capacity to grapple with what is true and false and form worldviews even if we are not conscious of them or their basis. We were made to reason. God’s purpose for us is not just to hear him, to quickly skim through a text like we’re reading the “spark notes” or condensed version of a wonderful novel. God is not an abbreviated news clip or a quick snack.

    The staggering truth about the incarnation is that the Word (Jesus) became flesh and made his dwelling among us, making the God of the universe known to us. (John 1:1-18). Jesus says that He, the Good Shepherd, KNOWS his sheep and his sheep KNOW him (John 10:14). The Greek word “know” in this context is ginosko which means “to come to know, recognise or perceive.” It is not the word eido which refers to head knowledge or facts. We can only ginosko God when we gain heart knowledge of Him and that cannot be done in a hurry! We need to pause and reflect and ponder and wonder about what God is saying to us through his Word, massaging it into our hearts, allowing the words to affect our feelings, as good poetry, music or art touches our whole being. That’s what Christian meditation is.

    Meditation is where our mind meets our affections.

    Let’s draw another parallel with eating: Imagine sitting at the dinner table to eat a three course, gourmet meal prepared from scratch and compare this whole food experience to a fast food snack taken on the run. Meditation was something Old Testament and early 1st century Christians thought was vital: In Genesis 24:63 we read, “Isaac went out to meditate in the field toward evening.” We know from the Gospels that Jesus often got up early in the morning to be on his own to pray and meditate. Meditation is really the high point of a personal devotion. This is the time to take out your pen and journal and dig a little deeper, writing down insights the Holy Spirit gives you: Ask yourself, “What does this text actually mean? What is God telling me about Himself, the world, about me?” If it’s an Old Testament text, ask if you can see any shadow of Jesus and the Gospel. The Gospel is central to each of the 66 books of Scripture and digging deeper reveals layer upon layer of God’s redemptive plan. My two eldest kids have “THE JESUS BIBLE” and have been amazed to discover that almost every page of the Bible, including the Old Testament, points towards Jesus as the Messiah. The Gospel is at the core of the Bible, and it’s the message that will lead us to see our sin and come to Jesus and receive his free gift of forgiveness and eternal life, so it makes sense to meditate on every passage we read in the light of this amazing grace. It’s what Jesus was doing when he spoke to his disciples in Luke 24:27:

    “AND BEGINNING WITH MOSES AND ALL THE PROPHETS, HE INTERPRETED TO THEM IN ALL THE SCRIPTURES THE THINGS CONCERNING HIMSELF”

    Meditation involves interpretation to find the true meaning of a text.

    Ask questions about the text, starting with what the original readers would have understood. Throughout my years of Bible reading at school, I used the notes at the bottom of my Study Bible as a launching pad for meditation. Study Bibles also give you cross references to help you interpret the text.

    Meditation is like mining or digging

    I’ve found that meditation is like detective work or mining to find nuggets of gold. Whereas, reading and observing is like using a rake to sweep the leaves into piles, meditation is taking out your spade and digging deep into the passage. Meditations can be recorded in your journal as bullet points, thoughts or questions. If there’s a verse or phrase that jumps out from the page, write it down in full to memorise it.

    Memorisation is the mate of meditation

    Memorisation is a part of meditation for me because it’s the best way to make the Bible stick. It’s why I have written verses on recipe cards all my life and stuck them everywhere in my house! I read the cards so often that eventually they find their way into my foggy brain. The only way I can memorise anything is if there is meaning attached to it. It’s not memorizing as a duty or to show off. Saving Scripture in your memory bank is like relishing and savouring something beautiful that you desperately want to hold onto and absorb into the core of your being for the rest of your days.

    Consider the contrast between the knowledge and wisdom we gain from meditating on God’s Word, versus the shallow information we gain from technology, particularly social media.

    “TECHNOLOGY REVEALS WHO WE ARE, BUT IT ALSO CHANGES US: WE CARRY THESE DEVICES IN OUR HANDS BUT SOMETIMES WE ARE THE ONES BEING SHAPED AND MOULDED. IF WE ARE NOT CAREFUL, TECHNOLOGY CAN OVERSTIMULATE US, ISOLATE US, ENSLAVE US AND CAUSE US TO DRIFT NOT ONLY AWAY FROM OTHER PEOPLE, BUT ALSO AWAY FROM GOD. TECHNOLOGY CAN CROWD OUT SILENCE IN OUR LIVES. IT CAN DISTRACT US FROM CARING FOR THE PEOPLE RIGHT IN FRONT OF US. IT CAN DEHUMANIZE US AND OTHERS. IT CAN MAKE US FORGET WHO GOD CALLED US TO DO.” (KEVIN DE YOUNG).

    Making regular time to meditate on the Bible is the antidote to a weak, shallow Christian life.

    “REMEMBER, IT’S NOT HASTY READING, BUT SERIOUS MEDITATION ON HOLY AND HEAVENLY TRUTHS, THAT MAKE THEM PROVE SWEET AND PROFITABLE TO THE SOUL. IT IS NOT THE BEE’S TOUCHING OF THE FLOWER WHICH GATHERS HONEY—BUT HER ABIDING FOR A TIME UPON THE FLOWER, WHICH DRAWS OUT THE SWEET. IT IS NOT HE WHO READS MOST—BUT HE WHO MEDITATES MOST, WHO WILL PROVE THE CHOICEST, SWEETEST, WISEST AND STRONGEST CHRISTIAN.” (THOMAS BROOKS (PURITAN) : IN PRECIOUS REMEDIES AGAINST SATAN’S DEVICES)

    Meditation melts anxiety.

    Philippians 4:9 says: “Whatever is true, noble and right, pure, lovely and admirable, excellent or praiseworthy, THINK ABOUT SUCH THINGS.”

    Paul actually commands us to meditate on good things. There is a useful byproduct that comes from this kind of meditation: it melts anxiety. This passage follows directly after Philippians 4:8 which instructs us, “Do not be anxious about anything…” the verse that reminds us to pray rather than worry. The result of prayer is that we will be filled with the peace of God, which transcends understanding. But we cannot read verse 4-8 on its own, as it is intricately connected to verse 9. After we have prayed, we must choose to settle our minds on good things. It is in meditating on the list of good things in verse 9 that our hearts will remain in perfect peace so that we don’t fall back into the worry trap. Meditation on God’s Word guards our heart.

    “BELIEVERS WHO SPEND NO TIME REVIEWING AND PONDERING IN THEIR MINDS WHAT GOD HAS DONE, WHETHER ALONE AND READING THEIR BIBLE, OR JOINING WITH OTHER BELIEVERS IN CORPORATE ADORATION, SHOULD NOT BE SURPRISED IF THEY RARELY SENSE THAT GOD IS NEAR.” DON CARSON.

    Now we get to the final stage of ROMA– Apply.

    –Apply: Applying Scripture is really an extension of meditation. It’s asking: What is this passage saying to me? Someone once told me to always make Scripture reading PERSONAL, PRACTICAL AND POSSIBLE. When I write my applications in my journal, I force myself to start with the words—”I NEED TO….” That takes away the option of keeping it a theory or a vague idea in my head. If God wants me to make a genuine change, or do something concrete and specific, or change my attitude, I need to obey right away. It’s like writing down your goals. Writing down your application in your journal holds you accountable as you will be reminded of your commitment the next day. Jesus’ brother, James, describes application like this:

    22 But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, DECEIVING YOURSELVES. 23 For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man who looks intently at his natural face in a mirror. 24 For he looks at himself and goes away and at ONCE FORGETS what he was like. 25 But the one who looks into the perfect law, the law of liberty, and PERSEVERES, being no hearer who forgets but A DOER WHO ACTS, HE WILL BE BLESSED IN HIS DOING. (JAMES 1:22-26).

    Just notice a few things about this text:

    James contrasts a hearer who forgets and a doer who acts. (So it’s quite possible to study and read the Bible diligently but to remain a hearer who forgets.) Jesus spoke harshly to religious Jews of his day who had memorized the whole Old Testament and were great scholars of the Scriptures, yet they refused to see its true application and fulfillment in Jesus.

    YOU SEARCH THE SCRIPTURES because you think that in them you have eternal life; and it is they that bear witness about me, 40 yet you refuse to come to me that you may have life.” (John 5:39-40).

    Could that also be true of us? We can search the Scriptures, reading the Bible diligently like a man staring at his face in the mirror. But if we are not coming to Jesus to hear from Him, if we don’t PERSEVERE in doing what He shows us, if we refuse to let the Scriptures change our thoughts, actions or words, James tells us we are just kidding ourselves. May we never read the Bible intellectually but refuse to come to Jesus himself, “that we may have life!” If the Bible touches the neck up, (our mind and intellect,) but never sinks into practical everyday living, it will be a dead exercise. We need the power of the Holy Spirit to bring the Bible to life in us; to transport the text from our head into our heart, where “the word of Christ will dwell in us richly.” (Colossians 3:16).

    How do we become a doer who acts instead of a hearer who forgets? We need to first come to Jesus as our Saviour and enter into a personal relationship with him. We first need to become a Christian and a disciple of Jesus. After that we must do what all disciples do. We must sit day after day at the feet of our teacher to be taught by him and “know” him in the ginosko sense. Jesus is not physically with us anymore, but he abides in us through the Holy Spirit and his Word is the way he continues to speak to us personally.

    But more than just reading Scripture, we need to act upon what he’s teaching us in the Bible, day by day, month by month, year by year. That’s what James calls “persevering”, and the promise attached to this persevering is that “God will bless us in our doing.” Do you see the order? First look into the law of liberty (that means be diligent about meditating on the Scriptures), second, remember and apply what it says day in and day out….Then, third, God will bless your actions. It may seem like a very mundane habit, but it’s potent over a lifetime.

    A medicine will do no good unless applied.

    But application isn’t always something we can put on our to-do list. Most decisions we make in life are spontaneous or instinctive, not carefully thought out. We just act. Our actions naturally flow out from the kind of person we are, the way we think. The Bible doesn’t give us a simple to-do list for everyday, but wisdom to discern his will as we encounter millions of small choices over a lifetime. That’s why Paul prays in Romans 12:1,2:

    “I APPEAL TO YOU THEREFORE, BROTHERS, BY THE MERCIES OF GOD, TO PRESENT YOUR BODIES AS A LIVING SACRIFICE, HOLY AND ACCEPTABLE TO GOD, WHICH IS YOUR SPIRITUAL WORSHIP. 2 DO NOT BE CONFORMED TO THIS WORLD, BUT BE TRANSFORMED BY THE RENEWAL OF YOUR MIND, THAT BY TESTING YOU MAY DISCERN WHAT IS THE WILL OF GOD, WHAT IS GOOD AND ACCEPTABLE AND PERFECT.”

    Did you hear that last bit? One day at a time, over a lifetime of reading Scripture, we renew our minds. This is how God transforms us, because over time we will develop discernment or wisdom, so we will instinctively know the will of God. But you may say to me: “Some passages of ancient history are just plain boring and irrelevant to me. How can I apply them to my life?”

    For example, what if you are faced with a genealogy to read, like the lists of names in Numbers or the laws in Deuteronomy. What practical use can a list of dead guys be to you? There’s no “to do” step or even a lesson in passages like these. But this is what I wrote in my journal when I read the genealogy at the beginning of Matthew recently:

    “I need to stop thinking I am unimportant to God. That I can do nothing in his kingdom. I am part of his family, part of this line of promise, and if every name and generation is important to God, so am I and so is my family. I need to believe it today instead of thinking I am nothing!”

    Application may just be a heartfelt exclamation of amazement or gratitude for something. It may be a stab of guilt that will lead to an action. It may be a sin I need to confess to God. First God awakens our feelings and changes our minds and desires. This leads to action. That’s what makes us become a doer, not just a hearer of the Word.

    The crux of application is to understand that the Bible speaks to me personally. The Puritan preacher, Thomas Watson, put it like this:

    “WHEN WE OPEN THE BOOK, TAKE EVERY WORD AS SPOKEN TO YOURSELVES. WHEN THE WORD THUNDERS AGAINST SIN, THINK THUS: “GOD MEANS MY SINS”. WHEN IT PRESSETH ANY DUTY, “GOD INTENDS ME IN THIS.”

    In other words, stop thinking of how suitable this passage is to fix all your spouse’s issues! The Bible is for my own issues!

    The Bookends of Prayer.

    After completing ROMA, prayer follows naturally in response to what we have meditated on. Prayer is a habit of grace that I would like to write about in another blog, because there’s so much to say about this gift, but, from my own experience, authentic, deep, focused prayer flows naturally from meditation in the Word of God. Prayers are the two bookends to ROMA: Before we start reading, we pray. And after we have been nourished by the Word of God, we pray.

    “WHAT WE TAKE IN BY THE WORD, WE DIGEST BY MEDITATION AND LET OUT BY PRAYER…MEDITATION IS A “BRIDGE DISCIPLINE” BETWEEN HEARING FROM GOD IN HIS WORD AND RESPONDING TO HIM IN PRAYER.” (HABITS OF GRACE: ENJOYING JESUS THROUGH THE SPIRITUAL DISCIPLINES, DAVID MATHIS: P25).

    THE FRUITS OF ROMA (READ, OBSERVE, MEDITATE AND APPLY)

    Going back to when I was an 11 year old girl at boarding school, we didn’t have any of the wonderful online tools we have today– The Bible app, Youtube, sermon podcasts and google if all else fails. The internet wasn’t even on our radar. Yet, a preacher from Youth For Christ had no hesitation in teaching me a method of inductive Bible study because he fully expected me to be able to read the Bible on my own and believed that the Holy Spirit would be my personal aide. He trusted that God’s Word was clear enough to be understood and applied by a little girl even when I came upon portions that would be hard to understand. His trust was not unfounded. With help from my study Bible, I found most passages to be clear and relevant even if I didn’t grasp them fully. The Bible is simple enough for a child to understand but never simplistic. We are given a lifetime to mine its treasures. We should not be too reliant on teachers, preachers and ‘experts’ to do our digging for us or survive off the weekly sermon at Church, which is more like six day fasting. Nor should we get in the habit of snacking on dumbed down devotional books with a verse per day designed to make Bible reading quick and effortless for 21st century Christians. It is a recipe for spiritual malnutrition over the long term.

    It is in the preparing, chewing and digesting of the Word, especially the tough bits, that we get to know our God in a personal way and experience an intimate relationship with him.

    Jesus quoted from Deuteronomy when tempted by Satan:

    “It is written, “‘Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that comes from the mouth of God.” (Matthew 4:4).

    The truth is that some passages are hard to understand (even Peter said that Paul’s letters were hard to understand), but one of the principles of the Reformation is Sola Scriptura (Scripture alone). This is why William Tyndale was prepared to be burnt at the stake for translating the Bible into English in 1536,

    “I defy the Pope and all his laws. If God spare my life, ‘ere many years I will cause a boy who drives the plough to know more of the Scriptures than you do.”

    You and I are the equivalent of the ploughboy. Most of us have never been to Bible College or got a PHD in theology. But, ordinary people should be reading and understanding the Bible for ourselves, and we are doing ourselves a great disservice if we don’t position ourselves in this great channel of grace that God has offered us freely, in our own language. Western Christians are more privileged than in any other age, but we must be careful not to reduce the Bible to a few clichés, wanting to drink “milk” forever like the Corinthians, rather than growing up to eat solids and meat. The irony is that with all the opportunities and privileges we have, we may remain spiritually undernourished because we are spoon fed.

    My greatest hope is to inspire us all (myself included) to be self feeders, hungry to meet face to face with Jesus over the pages of His Word, hungry to be life long learners, hungry to dig deeper and to have an alive, active relationship with Jesus every day, to experience firsthand:

    “The Word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword,it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.” Hebrews 4:12.

    For practical tips and motivation to build a daily habit of Grace, see part 2 that will be published next week.

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  • Advice to my Younger Self

    Advice to my Younger Self

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    When you are in your 50’s there are times you look back with amazement at some of the things you got up to in your teens and early 20s. You say to yourself, “What was I thinking? I should never have done that or I should have done more of this.” In those moments you realize that time has gone and you cannot undo those decisions and actions. Guilt and regret can settle in your heart.

    This is where unmerited grace needs to come in to help you accept that there is actually no use crying over the proverbial spilt milk.  Grace says you are forgiven and you have to forgive yourself since there is nothing you can do about the past. You can only do something about the future.

    Regrettably, those memories of past decisions cannot be deleted from your inbox, and from time to time they come racing across the screen causing you even more hurt and pain.  Sometimes you see the “evidence” or “scars” of your poor and ill-informed decisions and each time they remind you of how inane your thinking once was.  The truth of yesterday haunts you today. King David must stand as one of the greatest Biblical examples of someone who could not erase the reminders and consequences of his past.

    I do wish at times that there had been a special person who emerged to give me eyes to see the impact my decisions would have on my future and on generations to come.

    If I could give advice to my younger self, this is what I’d say:

    1. Life is a journey

    Do not rush to do everything before you have walked the whole way. Sometimes our youthful exuberance leads us to act on half-baked information and facts. This rashness can have long lasting effects.  So always lean on the side of gathering the facts or data to inform your decision making rather than rushing impulsively into action without considering the pros and cons. You have a long life ahead – God willing – so why rush it?

    2. Remember your actions and decisions have consequences

    The results of your actions can either be good or bad, positive or negative. It is a certainty that actions or decisions have consequences, which in many instances can be deep and long-lasting. So, with this in mind, it stands to reason that one has to always carefully weigh the options. By deciding on one way or another, you may open or close your opportunities for an interesting and successful career long-term.

    3. Prepare for each life stage

    Preparing to live with a purpose at each stage of life beyond infancy is important.  The stages include: infancy, adolescence, young adulthood, adulthood and senior citizenship.  You prepare by listening to those who have gone before you. They may have been born before modern technology, but they know a lot more about life than you do. Of course, these older ‘counsellors’ or ‘mentors” should be people you trust and who have your best interests at heart. It is unwise to reject good advice off-hand just because you do not like it. One needs to take time to reflect and consider any feedback and advice one is being handed.

    4. Defer gratification or pleasure seeking

    Generally long-lasting things take time to achieve, so the “tyranny of urgency” i.e. a mentality that says “I want it and I want it now”, can lead to untold disasters. The trick is not to be driven by your desires. You cannot just get things your way all the time.  Learn to delay your gratification and control your impulses, giving you a necessary pause to think.

    5. You are not the final authority

    Sometimes youths “fight” with their parents or any authority figure, because they want to be in charge of their lives and to live their way without any controls. Remember you cannot live as if you will never account for the manner in which you conduct yourself. The reality is that you may be called to account many times during your lifetime. There is always someone in charge either directly or indirectly. Ultimately, God, the Creator and Judge of the universe, is in charge and will require some accounting when the curtains of this world are drawn. Live today with that final Day in mind.

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  • Desperate Times… The Jesmond Consecration

    Desperate Times… The Jesmond Consecration

    Christianity in the world is on a steady path of giving up on the bible. The Anglican Church is the second largest denomination in the world and some brave men have chosen to go against this liberalism by fighting it at its source: England. Read the article from Mark Thompson below and watch the video from Martin Morrison above.

    The Jesmond Consecration

    In October 1517 Martin Luther began a revolution. He had not intended to do so. His concern was that the church he loved might see the danger it was in and make a stand with him on the teaching of Scripture. It was a rather innocuous act at first sight, the posting of notice of a university debate. Yet the reaction to Luther’s 95 theses and the subsequent action of this faithful Christian leader in the church and university of Wittenberg demonstrated quite clearly the determination of the institution, the entire hierarchical structure extending to the Pope in Rome, to resist reformation and to continue on its path of false teaching and unfaithful practice.  They would not stand with him but opposed him with every weapon in their armoury. Before long, Luther and those around him would need to train and authorise faithful leaders for the churches in Germany and elsewhere. When the institution had failed so badly and was so demonstrably committed to directions contrary to the word of God, something needed to be done. They could no longer wait for the institutional structures to embrace reform and sit again under the word of God come what may. Desperate times call for desperate measures.

    500 years on there are places all over the world where a new reformation is sorely needed. The Church of England is a case in point. There are many faithful men and women within the Church of England who teach, believe, and live out the teaching of the Bible. There are many faithful vicars and church workers and at least one faithful theological college where men and women are trained for a biblical ministry in the Church of England. There are even a few biblically faithful, godly, evangelistically-minded bishops in the Church of England. The picture is certainly not uniformly black. Yet for decades the structures of the Church of England have proven resistant to reform in the light of the Scriptures. Unbelief and immorality are not challenged but excused and, more recently, embraced. When the faithful are attacked for seeking to live out the same quiet, biblical faith as the sovereign, they find little support from the hierarchy of the Church of England, and whatever support they do receive is heavily qualified. The leadership is powerless or unwilling to act. When the faithful have cried out for protection against the predatory liberalism within the Church of England, which masquerades as tolerance and sophisticated broad-mindedness, little or nothing is done. Quietly the stranglehold of unbelief on the structures of the Church of England gets tighter and tighter. The disdain with which evangelical churches and institutions are treated is obvious and the subtle and not so subtle attempts to pressure them into conformity have continued to increase. The nation needs to be re-evangelised and meanwhile the bishops seem entangled in endless debates about legalities and how they might baptise the cultural consensus. Desperate times call for desperate measures.

    On 2 May the Revd Jonathan Pryke, a long serving member of the ministry staff at Jesmond Parish Church, was consecrated as a bishop in the the north of England. It was an entirely valid and legal consecration, though irregular. It was not initiated or sanctioned by the hierarchy of the Church of England. The consecrators were bishops of the Reformed Evangelical Anglican Church of South Africa (REACH-SA). The action was taken independently of bodies such as the AMiE (Anglican Mission in England) and GAFCON. It is regrettable that it has come to this, yet time and again every attempt to bring the Church of England back to the teaching of Scripture has been blocked by bishops, the General Synod, or the committees and organisations of the church. Those out of fellowship with their bishop over a number of doctrinal and ethical issues have had no support or encouragement from the leadership of the church. The so-called ‘provision’ for conscientious dissent has proven to be ineffectual in many cases, since it requires the permission of the local bishop who may well be entirely opposed. The faithful have waited and waited and now some have judged the time has come to act.

    Bishop Pryke is a godly man who is committed to the teaching of the Scriptures. He is a conscientious Anglican who believes the classic doctrine of the church as expressed in the 39 Articles and the Book of Common Prayer. His godly character is attested by those who have observed him in ministry over many years. He is an entirely appropriate candidate for leadership among God’s people. The consecration is valid, there can be no doubt about that. It is, however, irregular, but that irregularity is borne out of the desperate situation in which believers who remain within the Church of England find themselves.

    Already there have been threats of legal action and the accusations and denunciations have begun. Of course it is permissible for evangelical Anglicans in England and elsewhere to conclude ‘I would not have done it that way’. We must not copy the tactics of coercion used by others and insist on a uniformity of opinion. Nevertheless, the impasse between evangelicals (often labelled ‘conservative evangelicals’ in the UK) and the church hierarchy could not continue forever. Something has had to be done and now a group of faithful men and women have acted. Even if I wish there had been another way to do this, I still want to pray, encourage, and support those who have been courageous enough to act. In particular, I want to support Bishop Pryke in prayer. I will pray that he will provide the kind of leadership that has been lacking in the Church of England and that he will provide effective pastoral care for those who have felt stranded and isolated within their own church.

    There were those in Luther’s time who thought ‘now is not the time’ and ‘we can still work within the existing structures’ and ‘it’s not as bad as you make out’.  Yet he — with all his flaws — was God’s instrument in bringing lasting and beneficial change to the Christian churches. The biblical gospel was recovered and, though it was not called this at the time, a work of re-evangelising Europe was begun. We can look back from 500 years on and say ‘Yes, it was the time’. My hope is that we will look back at the events of last week and give thanks to God that this was a pivotal moment in a movement that sees the gospel, and the Lord of the gospel, honoured and treasured again throughout England.

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  • Grandparents

    Grandparents

    Love at first sight…

    That is what happened when I took that tiny scrap of humanity in my arms, looked at the little face and fell in love with our little Lilly. My world changed forever. That was 5 years ago, Friday 10th February 2012. I didn’t realise how much our lives would be intertwined, particularly in those early months. We bounced on the exercise ball, we walked, we laughed, we cried and, horror of horrors, I sang. That was when “doo doo my Lilly” started out followed by the biggest lot of rubbish, like “why the hell will you not go to sleep!”, all in a sing song voice. August 2014 Luke joined the family

    How do you prepare emotionally for the change from parent to grandparent?

    Preparing for grandparenthood was never on my agenda. Most probably because my “being a Mom’s Taxi” days carried on for over 20 years and our eldest, our daughter, was 34 when she finally went down the aisle. Even then I refrained from frustrating my daughter with endless grand child talk and just went with the flow. My mindset then was “If they have a baby, cool, if they don’t, it is also okay.”

    Now one cannot imagine what it will be like before they are born, but once they are it is astounding how you fall in love with the little bundles of joy and cannot stop yourself from “fussing” over them. Once they get older, the joy of having them around to visit and sleep over makes up for the fact that your own children have left home for good.

    Being GP’s has changed our mindset. It adds a new dimension to future planning. When we downsize do we move closer to one or another of our 2 Jozi children? Suddenly that dream of moving Sedgefield way doesn’t seem such a good idea.

    When considering moving closer to one’s children, it is good to remember that they can upstick and be on the other side of the world in the blink of an eye. So only move if it is where YOU want to be and where you can set up your own life and your own circle of friends.

    How Involved should we be in our grandchildren’s lives?

    This will depend on the relationship with the parents and where they live.

    We are fortunate to be a 20 minute drive from our grandchildren and have a close relationship with all 3 of our children and their spouses. We are involved in Lilly and Luke’s lives on a weekly basis. Sleepovers; once a week school run; Papa helping with DIY and Sunday afternoon teas.

    We lovingly reinforce their parents discipline so that Luke & Lilly know exactly where they stand. I have only gotten into trouble once and that was when their mother discovered that it was Nana that taught them to drink the last bit of milk left in the cereal bowl straight out of the bowl. So that has now become one of Nana’s Rules. It can be done at Nan’s but not at home!

    Exodus 20:12 says “Honour your mother and father, so that you may live long in the land your father has given you.” We want to help Lilly and Luke in honouring their parents. What that looks like, will change from grandchild to grandchild but we want to guide them from as early as possible. The way honour is displayed is different as phases of life changes, our children grow up and they begin to start making decisions for themselves and we evolve from the front seat driver to the passenger giving guidance whenever needed. Having an open and honest relationship with the parents of your grandchildren is the best way to avoid any conflict.

    How to provide the gospel to your grandchildren

    Proverbs 17:6
    Children’s children are a crown to the aged, and parents are the pride of their children. NIV

    The point is that grandchildren are beautiful jewels that grandparents wear like strings of pearls. Chris Brauns

    How to share the gospel with ones grandchildren again depends on circumstances. From our perspective, with all 3 children married, and with each (spouses included) at varying levels of Belief, there is no perfect blueprint.

    One has to remember that they are your children’s children and as such, you have to respect that and not be prescriptive or confrontational.

    With Luke & Lil being our first grandchildren we are on a training run and try to live by example and take our cue from their parents. The children know that we go to Church and Lil has been with us a few times. I have permission to read them stories about Jesus and the nod has been given for Lil to go to Sunday School when she is with us. We have to pray and let God guide us.

    How do you best show love to your grand child?

    Loving and interacting with your grandchildren is pretty much the same as what you did with your own children, only you get to do much much more of the good stuff and don’t have to worry about the day to day routine drudge. That’s Mom & Dads problem.

    What are some practical things you can do when they come over?

    Of course this depends on the age and what stage the grandchildren are. Being very practical hands-on people the children generally join in with what we are doingThey ride their bikes, help in the garden, play fantasy games, make tent houses with the chairs, cushions and blankets and cause total chaos when helping with the baking

    Watching a grandchild go through the various stages of growth is a very rewarding, enriching experience and we are very fortunate to be able to spend so much time with these two and hopefully we will have the same with any further grandchildren that will join our family.

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    Divorce

    Disclaimer from the editor: Although divorce is not something that everyone goes through, it is still worth adding it to our series on stages of life. Sadly the divorce rate globally is growing and in South Africa it is currently sitting at an average of 6% increase annually with over half our population experiencing it. It has thus become a stage of life for many, giving us good reason to add it to the series.

    By Des de Fortier

    In every stage in life joy can be found as this is the chief end of man, but how do we worship God in this stage of Life? Where can our joy come from? What are some of the challenges etc?

    It is hard to think we can find joy in divorce as it must be one of the most traumatic experiences to go through in life.

    • The death of a relationship,
    • The death of a dream,
    • A life without a partner
    • So much responsibility as it often involves children.

    Is there joy in the fact that we are now removed from a difficult marriage? Or an abusive one? Some might think it’s a simple to find joy; Just find another person and move on, relive your youth as a single person…looking to fill the whole in all the wrong places such as pubs etc.

    It’s not quiet as easy. The union of marriage is a miracle from God and in there lies the biggest challenge we need to face. Ignoring this will rob us of a joy greater than the one we believe we gain from new relationships. I have tried many paths to find happiness and can truly say there is just one that brings real healing from the trauma of divorce.

    Don’t place your hope in the separation divorce brings

    “This is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh” Genesis 2:24

    In Genesis 2:24 we find the main reason why a divorce is so painful. It does not say we can merrily separate and go our different ways. In marriage we become one flesh, which means separation in marriage is as bad as ripping a person in two. We believe the world will provide us with happiness as after a long period of hurt in a broken marriage, we believe:

    • Happiness is somehow owed to us.
    • “Surely the world will offer us this and that after divorce?”
    • We think we are now single and able to enjoy the fruits the world offers.

    Yet the sad reality is that it is very much the opposite! The world will make us miserable and lonelier than we can imagine. Pretty gloomy and miserable right?! Wrong! We have a hope a great hope and this hope will bring us more joy than we can ever imagine, even in times like divorce.

    Set Your Priorities Right

    So, where does it start? Well, let’s look at John 3:16 – 21 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish, but have eternal life” This verse helps us to set our priorities in order. We need healing and a lot of it and who better to provide the healing than the manufacturer of the heart? The journey begins with believing, or entrusting our lives to God which provides us with eternal life. There’s a joy which comes from knowing that this world is not the end and, if you understand what the phrase ‘eternal life’ means, there’s an even greater joy.

    In John 17:3, Jesus describes eternal life as knowing the Son and the Father. It’s not only about the end, but eternal life starts in this life. Eternal life is:

    • A relationship with the Father and the Son?
    • We can relate to the God of the universe unbeterbed by who we are,

    The relationship is not based on our actions, but rather on whether we’ve entrusted our lives and troubles to God. That brings joy. This is our first priority which brings back hope.

    Never Walk Alone

    We cannot do this alone. We need,

    • A place where we can learn, grow and find the right support as we need it.
    • A place that will support us through troubled times, in doubt in ourselves or God.
    • A community that will set us straight.

    I have been involved in facilitating Divorce Support for a long time and am still amazed at the healing that happens when Christ becomes our focus. The restoration of marriages, the reconciliation between two parties and the ability to rebuild a life full of wonder and joy even in divorce.

    There will be plenty of challenges.

    • The recurrence of the pain as much as we don’t want to face it we will have to.
    • Facing our ex-spouse especially when there are kids involved
    • The ability to give forgiveness or gain a civil form of reconciliation .
    • A financial mountain to climb.
    • Depression
    • Anger

    These are just a few obstacles as there are many more and none of these disappear overnight. In the beginning this seems an impossibility, but once we understand it in the Love of Christ, which was God’s intention, it can be liberating.

    Know that God is with you

    As we go through these challenges we will learn that God is there every step of the way if we hold on to his love. Psalm 91 starts with “whoever dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty” and verse 4 continues ” He will cover you with his feathers, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart.” What an incredible passage! Here we are promised that in God we have:

    • Safety,
    • A safe place to heal and grow again.

    Divorce is a time of uncertainty and unknowns. It can take forever to believe there is any hope of Joy, and sometimes we will feel that the world is against us as challenges will vary in their intensity especially in divorce. The late Dr Miles Monroe said, “Divorce is just an event. It should not define who we are”. We can find our identity and a pure love in a relationship with God through the death of Christ.

    Know that nothing can separate you from the Love of Christ

    In closing I want to point you to another passage of hope; the ultimate hope. Romans 8: 18 – 39. Paul ends it in verses 38 – 39 “For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, 39 neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Amen

    So if you have ever been divorced or are going through one and wondering if you are normal or if you will ever feel normal again? Find a support group or a family who loves and lives for Christ and ask God to guide you by faith in His Son Jesus Christ. True Joy is not in what we have now, but what we gain in eternity through Christ.

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